READ : James 3:14-18
“…leave off contention, before it be meddled with.” – Proverbs 17:14
God can deal with many things and does a better job taking care of us. Many issues cannot be solved by explaining and prosecuting a matter. Many issues are best left to God by prayer and faith, knowing that He can perfect all that concerns you. Accept the fact that God alone can change and solve complex issues, so commit things to God, to time, to the elements, and to nature.
Marital conflicts will be endless and probably just end in divorce unless you trust God to take care of various situations. In the process of time, some issues get resolved. At other times, God can use natural things (nature, the elements, etc.) to minister to your spouse and bring about a change. In marriage, we must accept that it is the wisdom of God to choose the path of peace rather than to quarrel (Proverbs 17:28). Decide to be a peacemaker and not a cantankerous and ill-natured person (Matthew 5:9). Where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work, but a home full of love and peace will produce a healthy marriage and a good environment for children to grow in.
A lasting, joyful Christian marriage can only be achieved if it is based on the Word of God. Decide to get along with each other in spite of any provocation. Accept that the Word of God is greater than your emotions or personal ideas. Do not be moved by what you feel but be moved, directed, motivated and constrained by the Word of Almighty God!